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Don't Pressure Me, Man - A Male Mental Health Perspective: Part 2

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Pent up frustration usually presents itself in the form of anger. Anger is the surest way to boil emotions and make for uncomfortable situations. However, anger is also a sign of being depressed. Depression left untreated has the ability to lead down a negative path. 

Don't Pressure Me, Man - A Male Mental Health Perspective: Part 1

Society places many pressures and points of stress on the male gender all of the time. Everywhere we look, the men have incredible amounts of pressure to “live up” to what society expects or thinks the male gender should act, feel, or do. One might be surprised that there are just as many societal and personal pressures on the male gender role, as there are female. It is often overlooked for the simple reason that the male gender is not supposed to feel pressure and perform up to a perceived standard every single day, every single time. This is simply not true. 

What Love Means Now

My version of love has changed from the past several years. 

When I was younger, love to me was an infatuation. 

When I was in my 20’s, love was lust – yes, there is a difference, but the label of love was used. 

Now, in my late 30’s, love is completely different than I ever thought possible. It is not trivial. It is not selfish. It encompasses all there is about another person, rather than focusing on one thing they have to offer. There is no more taking advantage for a quick situational win. The focus has shifted to inclusion in all of life’s experiences. 

Pregnancy Part 1 of 3 - I Didn’t Think I Would Make It This Far

“I didn’t think I’d make it this far.” This thought has been a constant on the minds of many, at least at one time or another. It is a blatant cry of lost hope, but the courageous steps of something to look forward to. It’s all about finding that ‘one thing’ that makes you want to continue on. 

I Should Just Go

Often, there are times when we don’t want to do anything; nothing inspires, nothing motivates, nothing is uplifting. “It seems that the weight of the world is bearing down on me and I can’t possibly do anything about it-I should just go. It’s just one thing after another.” 

Caregiving Matters

There are three things that I have begun to incorporate into my way of thinking as a caregiver. It started when I was in my early 20’s and began to lightly step onto the caregiving path for my aging grandmother. My parents long ago started something, (now defunct), called ‘Caregiving Matters’ when my grandmother was ill, for the issue of creating an avenue of support and to feel less stressed in certain care-giving situations. For about the next eight years I learned a lot about what it means to give selflessly and love unconditionally, while guiltily wanting something else.

Between a Rock and a Hard Place

‘Sometimes I just want to crawl under a rock. It seems as if that is the safest place; the hardness of the rock will protect me from what I don’t want to face and I don’t need to exert energy into doing anything anyone asks of me. I can escape to the darkness this rock shield provides and be alive in my own world without a care.’ 

A Garden Full of Flowers

What is the one thing that you love? What is the one thing that you hate? ‘Thing’ has so many definitions and in a broad sense covers the spectrum of anything and everything – no matter how minute, ‘it’ holds great significance. There are positives and negatives everywhere, but incorporating both is what makes for a wonderful life.

Greg Wohler

My name is Greg Wohler, and I sit on a hospital help desk utilizing my technology skills to assist users and patients with the daily goings-on with the technical side of the complex – patience for patients, is key (pun intended!). Reading, trying new restaurants, playing board games, and chillaxing with our bratty kitty Lizzie are a few things my wife and I love to do together. She and I also play in a local Scottish bagpipes and drums band, (Denver and District), for local competitions, parades, festivals, and performances through-out the year.