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Between a Rock and a Hard Place

‘Sometimes I just want to crawl under a rock. It seems as if that is the safest place; the hardness of the rock will protect me from what I don’t want to face and I don’t need to exert energy into doing anything anyone asks of me. I can escape to the darkness this rock shield provides and be alive in my own world without a care.’ 

If you are finding yourself stuck between a rock and a hard place, one might miss out on what the world truly has to offer if the rock is more securely fastened as a cover. True humanism entitles every individual the notion that human traits such as caring, loyalty, compassion, and affection, to name a few, are every day facets of life. The rock is a band aid, while the cure is immersing the self in familiar surroundings with people of like interests. Gaining trust through fellow human beings is one of the hardest steps to take, but the long term pay-off is immeasurable. 

‘I’ve been broken with trust in the past, there is no way I can turn to anyone now.’ Farthest from the truth, in fact, and on the contrary those broken trusts are in the past; the present is what matters. There are always new encounters and new relationships ready to unfold. There was a saying once upon a time “There are no strangers here, only friends who have not yet met.” This is something I take with me as a positive affirmation that there is always going to be someone available, should the need arise to reach out.

Trust, especially where family and friends are concerned, is something innate that people are willing to give, given the chance. This is generally speaking, of course, how to go about it varies from person to person, and situation to situation. The trust factor is taking that step to find out what works best for you. The catch is not letting negative outcomes ruin the chance for further trust initiatives. Trust in yourself that you will gain positive insight to living a fuller and rich life, and trust in those around you that they will be there to help guide, listen, and take that step with you.

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I've been negotiating my way through the maze that is Bipolar Disorder since my diagnosis 5 years ago and been tackling challenges and insecurities one by one to make life more enjoyable. The task I have found the most challenging is sustaining friendships, I'm told I'm handsome, have a great personality & am in general an interesting person (I don't fully buy this praise, but am getting better at believing it). I do have difficulty sustaining relationships with my friends and I push people away as past insecurities & hurts mix with anxiety and paranoid thoughts. While my friends stick by me I still try & push them away as I feel I am too needy & don't deserve them as friends. I'm working through this with my psych, Im exceptionally impatient for this aspect of my life to be over as I have great friends some are as close as family and I find the pain of not fully accepting their love unbearable and embarrassing at times.

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